The Anxious Brain Conundrum…
read closely.
Maybe it’s only recently that you are recognizing that that inner feeling of tension, stress, pressure, irritability, is anxiety. As a high functioning male, you are used to foraging on and using the logical mind to work your way through your inner problems. You are skilled at pushing through, avoiding when needed, and ultimately minimizing the inner tension that continues to build.
Acceptable forms of addressing it include working out, drinking, gaming, diving deeper into work and yet you can’t help but notice that these efforts only provide temporary relief and often secondary problems either within yourself or with those you love.
Anxiety is an emotion, one of many, that is there to teach you something that you need to know. It honors your instinctual drive to survive and thrive but isn’t often addressed in ways that are effective due to our cultural programing to keep going and override.
The discomfort you feel is considered normal amongst your peers, if you are brave enough to even talk about it, and yet deep inside you know that there is another way of living- A peaceful state that you are always working towards, but don’t quite know how to get.
Perhaps you’ve tried meditation, hearing it’s all the rage, and yet can’t seem to find that inner calm. Perhaps you’ve tried therapy where you are taught more tools to manage the anxiety ultimately leaving you fearful of the anxiety once again just in a different way.
The Truth.
The tools you have they kind of work, but there is a part of you, a deeper subtler, more powerful part of you whispering- "This could be easier. I want to feel more free and at peace in my mind and body" followed by your mental favorites like "I should be doing better. I should be able to knock this anxiety by now. My life is fine. My life is good. Heck, my life is even great at times. I have nothing to complain about. What's wrong with me? Will this ever go away? "
You leave your inner monologue with the final conclusion. Try harder. Be better. Do better. This is it. This is the feedback loop of the anxious mind keeping you from the truest essence of who you are.
“You, like me, are a spiritual being in a human body. You are a spirit having a human experience, not a human having a spiritual experience. “
The Problem.
Yet, so often we are taught how to manage human symptoms with human tools and I get it. I am trained that way. I went to graduate school and studied the latest techniques to manage anxiety. The idea of "managing it" is half the problem. Trying to manage anything sounds quite frankly exhausting. The truth is, it is not your fault. You are doing the best you can with what you know. Yet your inner knowing , your north star, keeps pointing you to the direction of your soul, your spirit and true freedom.
You soul, your life force, your sense of vitality knows that you are held, supported, and completely taken care of. Your truest self knows that vibrationally you are not anxiety but rather love, light, and peace.
Your work is to try less, manage none, and to relax back into the essence of your true nature.In this space, anxiety simply becomes passing vibrational disruption moving through your body- not here to stay nor define you or your experience.
You are not anxiety. Step one is to drop the narrative that "I am anxious. I am an anxious person. I have anxiety."You are not.You have unintentionally conditioned your body to respond in an anxious way. It is what is familiar, comfortable, and expected. But NOT who you are. You are love, light, peace, ease, and pure positive essence.
Anxiety is an emotional state that is simply passing through in response to the thoughts in your mind that are separate from your truth.
It is possible to shift your experience, to tap into a soft belly, an open heart, an abundant spacious mind, a body that you love to be in because you are at peace with what is.